The difference between the athesists/agnostics (well, everyone else, really) and you is they know when to show some compassion and common decency.
Even I, a sociopathic, who cannot empathise with how others feel at least will give condolences and respect the feelings of others in times of mourning.
You remind me of the critical gay bashers who, in the end, turn out to be flaming homosexuals themselves. Is that the case with you? Are you really an atheist/agnostic and you're trying to divert the attention away from your feelings with all of this rhetoric and tripe?